As a senior in hs, the majority of my friends have remained virgins untill this year, and for those who have not given it away they are soon to become sexually active. I'm not saying it is wrong or right or asking what you are doing personally but.. I just wanted to see what the rest of you think about sex before marriage; and if you are saving yourself,why?
I Don't See A Probelm With Sex B4 Marriage (most Of My Friends Arent V'z)...it Just Aint For Me Lol
I'm A Proud Virgin And I'm Saving Myself For Marriage Because I Believe If You Wait God Will Bless Your Marriage...and I Believe My Body Is A Temple And I Will Not Let Just Any Ole Joe Have It Sooo That's Just How I Feel
_______________________________ RATTLERPRIDE ALL DAY!
I'm fine with sex before marriage. I'm not super religious so that isn't really a factor to me. I do believe however that you need to be careful, and it should be a meaningful relationship. I'd have to date a guy for at least 6 months for the consideration to even enter into my head. Then I'd probably want to wait another 3 months before actually having sex. I think as long as you are willing and ready to accept the responsibilities that go along with sex then the rest is up to you.
im planning on saving it for my husband to penetrate me, thats what my goal is because i cant wait for the day to be like "i was thinking of you before i even knew who u were and i saved this part of me only for u" gotta make him feel like a king ya know
but i dont know if i can consider myself a complete virgin as i have done oral but not penetration, so i guess im celibate in the oral area then...thats how i see it
_______________________________ A Woman’s Heart Is Like A Vault…Once You’re In, You’re In… But once you’re out…You’re Out
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eh, i don't see the big deal. i don't intend on waiting up to marriage since i don't see that happening anytime at all. however, i do intend on being with a significant whenever i decide to actually have sex.
_______________________________ keep your sugar and spice and everything nice...this girl's made of vodka,ice, and a lil'
There is a HIV pandemic (look the word up). Saving yourself and asking the men you meet to do so, is the best protection you have. Everyday ordinary people contract AIDS. Black women are highly vulnerable, as are Black men.
Contraception will not protect you. Why play with fire?
This has nothing to do with religion. It's called common sense.
There is a HIV pandemic (look the word up). Saving yourself and asking the men you meet to do so, is the best protection you have. Everyday ordinary people contract AIDS. Black women are highly vulnerable, as are Black men.
Contraception will not protect you. Why play with fire?
This has nothing to do with religion. It's called common sense.
True, no sex is the safest sex. But to say that contraception as a whole doesn't protect you just comes across as a tad bit irresponsible. Simply because some contraceptive measures are just that, to keep a girl from getting knocked up, not from getting an STD.
If you gotta do it, then do it. Just make sure you use protection, EVERY SINGLE TIME...even if it is your spouse/significant other. Unless you've gotten him tested out and stuff, take no chances.
_______________________________ keep your sugar and spice and everything nice...this girl's made of vodka,ice, and a lil'
contraceptives don't give reliable protection against anything. They come with a disclaimer that they do not protect you from contracting an STD. Surely we all realize that contraceptives also carry a disclaimer that they are not a "FOOL proof" method of protection from pregnancy either. (Notice they use the word fool - as in "only a fool really thinks we give a damn about whether you get knocked up or not" )
You never just "gotta do" anything. This is one of the great myths that leads Black ppl down the lonely road of regret. We have the highest teenage pregnancy rate. The fastest growing contraction of STDs in nearly every major city in the world where we live. The impact? We are graduating at lower rates. Our children are doing poorly in early childhood development assessments. Our families are splitting up early - In short, we are pretending that teens and young adults have the emotional, social, sexual and financial resources to take on sex - no offense, but 99% don't. They do it because once you're there, you're stuck. Why put yourself in that position?
The only thing you "gotta do" is love yourself. Protecting yourself is loving yourself. Sex is great, but its even better/safer in a marriage. Especially if you hold out or STOP having premarital sex and find someone willing to do the same thing. At least you have a better chance of saving up to raise a child, waiting until you mature, own your home, have several years in a job with medical benefits and a retirement plan. Trust me sex will be waiting for you when you get there.
~ Advice from husband and father.
contraceptives don't give reliable protection against anything. They come with a disclaimer that they do not protect you from contracting an STD. Surely we all realize that contraceptives also carry a disclaimer that they are not a "FOOL proof" method of protection from pregnancy either. (Notice they use the word fool - as in "only a fool really thinks we give a damn about whether you get knocked up or not" )
You never just "gotta do" anything. This is one of the great myths that leads Black ppl down the lonely road of regret. We have the highest teenage pregnancy rate. The fastest growing contraction of STDs in nearly every major city in the world where we live. The impact? We are graduating at lower rates. Our children are doing poorly in early childhood development assessments. Our families are splitting up early - In short, we are pretending that teens and young adults have the emotional, social, sexual and financial resources to take on sex - no offense, but 99% don't. They do it because once you're there, you're stuck. Why put yourself in that position?
The only thing you "gotta do" is love yourself. Protecting yourself is loving yourself. Sex is great, but its even better/safer in a marriage. Especially if you hold out or STOP having premarital sex and find someone willing to do the same thing. At least you have a better chance of saving up to raise a child, waiting until you mature, own your home, have several years in a job with medical benefits and a retirement plan. Trust me sex will be waiting for you when you get there.
~ Advice from husband and father.
Nothing is ever guaranteed. Nonetheless, the chances of you contracting an STD or getting pregnant is lower if you use a condom everytime, point blank. Just because it's not 100% doesn't mean you shouldn't at least lower your chances of getting it. It's like chemotherapy. It doesn't completely cure cancer, just fights it. Simply telling people to 'wait until marriage' and expect them to follow through is an unreal expectation. Especially when marriage isn't really seen an something worth taking seriously anymore. At least, not with shows like "Millionaire Matchmaker" or "Bridezilla". The problem is, and as a person who graduated with a pregnant classmate and a sprinkling of those who contracted an STD due to carelessness, is lack of education. Young adults are going to do, nine times out of ten, what they feel is right. Which, incidentally, is what young people do the world over. However, if we are given the tools to make better decisions, than I think our rate of STD's and teen pregnancies, might just decline. Because we're not talking about those who go out and sleep around and end up getting STD's due to faulty protection, we're talking about those who go out and do it, without anything at all to protect themselves. Which, if you didn't know it, more often than not nowadays, include married couples.
_______________________________ keep your sugar and spice and everything nice...this girl's made of vodka,ice, and a lil'
I believe that sex only complicates a relationship and if the couple is not mature enough to deal with the the "extra baggage" and emotional affects that come along with having sex, then they are setting their selves up for heartbreak. Unless, of course, they've already established early on that they are f***ing around.(But I'm willing to bet that any female who agrees to that type of reltionship, probably doesn't care about herself anyway.)
In short, SAVE ur 'goodies' for marriage. This way we won't have to deal with Busted car windows and etc.
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